‘I forgive him,’ Erika Kirk bravely offers words of mercy for husband’s murderer
GLENDALE, Arizona — Erika Kirk revealed that she forgives the man who killed her husband Charlie and preached unity and peace in a stunning, searing speech that left mourners speechless and crying on Sunday.
“He wanted to save young men. Just like the one who took his life,” Kirk’s widow said through tears, speaking behind the presidential seal on stage at State Farm Stadium.
She added: “I forgive him because it was what Christ did. And what Charlie would do.”
“The answer to hate is not hate. The answer we know from the gospel is love and always love. Love for our enemies and love for those who persecute us,” Erika continued.
She added that she wouldn’t push for the death penalty for Tyler Robinson, the man charged with his fatal shooting, telling the New York Times: “I do not want that man’s blood on my ledger.
“Because when I get to heaven, and Jesus is like: ‘Uh, eye for an eye? Is that how we do it?’ And that keeps me from being in heaven, from being with Charlie?”
Erika and President Trump shared a warm embrace from the stage following the commander-in-chief’s rousing eulogy in which he called Kirk “a great American hero,” and pledged to the couple that their two young children would grow up in a world where their father was revered.
Trump has been vocal about his sorrow since Kirk’s shocking death, more than once comparing him to another son.
But it was Erika who delivered the speech that left the the crowd in awe — with even those watching from TVs outside breaking down in tears.
“It was very heartfelt. I really empathized with her. Being a mom and wife myself, I can’t imagine,” said one Phoenix resident, Stephanie.
Wearing all white, and choking back tears as she slowly approached the podium on stage to applause, she told the crowd of more than 70,000 — with an estimated 200,000 who turned out in total — “God bless all of you for coming here from all over the world to honor and celebrate my Charlie.”
“When you say ‘here I am, lord, use me,’ God will take you up on that. And he did with Charlie,” she said, dabbing at her eyes with a tissue.
“Eleven days ago, God accepted that total surrender from my husband and then called him to his side,” she continued.
“On the afternoon of Sept. 10, I arrived at a Utah hospital to do the unthinkable: To look directly at my husband’s murdered body. I saw the wound that ended his life, I felt everything you would expect to feel. I felt shock, I felt horror and a level of heartache that I didn’t even know existed,” she said mournfully.
“But there was something else, too. Even in death I could see the man that I love. I could see the single gray hair on the side of his head, which I never told him about — now he knows, sorry baby.”
She said she saw on his lips “the faintest smile,” which she said “revealed a great mercy from God in this tragedy,” and said at that moment she realized he hadn’t suffered.
In a stunning moment, Erika proclaimed that her activist husband “was ready to die” — and explained what she meant.
Continuing from the podium on stage, Erika said, “I want all of you to know, while Charlie died far too early, he was also ready to die. There was nothing he was putting off. There was nothing that was too hard, or too painful.”
She went on, speaking glowingly of his work and legacy.
“He named his organization well. He knew things were not right with America, especially with young people, and that they needed a new direction,” she said of the Turning Point USA founder.
“Charlie passionately wanted to reach and save the lost boys of the West. The young men who feel like they have no direction, no purpose, no faith and no reason to live. The men wasting their lives on distractions and the men consumed with anger and hate,” she said.
“When he went onto campus, he was looking to show them a better path and a better life that was right there for the taking … My husband Charlie, he wanted to save young men, just like the one who took his life.”
Then she spoke directly of her husband’s accused murderer, Tyler Robinson.
“That young man. That young man. On the cross our savior said, ‘father forgive them for they know not what they do’ — that man, that young man, I forgive him,” she said as the audience rose in a standing ovation, many of them in tears.
Erika told the New York Times this week that she wears the blood-stained St. Michael pendant her husband was wearing when he was fatally shot while addressing a crowd at Utah Valley University Sept. 10.
She revealed the night before the shooting she had begged her husband to start wearing a bulletproof vest — a friend suggesting he speak behind bulletproof glass.
“Not yet,” Charlie replied optimistically, adding that he was confident in his security team and the additional measures being taken at the university.
“He left this world without regrets. He did 100% of what he could do every day. But I want you all to know something. Charlie died with incomplete work, but not with unfinished business,” she said as the audience erupted once again.
“I will miss him so much because our marriage and our family were beautiful, and still are. The greatest cause in Charlie’s life was trying to revive the American family,” she said, referencing his deeply held belief in the importance of family.
“When he spoke to young people he was always eager to tell them about God’s vision to marriage, and how if they could just dare to live it out it would enrich every part of their live in the same way it enriched ours.”
— Additional reporting by Steven Vago