I’m a 28-year-old male my mama died not long after I was born dad married Tina when I was seven she had a daughter also seven from a previous relationship named Diana Diana and I did not get along Diana was spoiled it was obvious she resented not being the only child anymore she took it out on me she would break my toys steal my stuff and lie to get me in trouble I would complained to Dad and Tina but they told me to give over it if I did the same I would get punished it only got worse as we got older I felt abandoned by my dad I often
felt lonely in my house so I guess you guys can see who the golden child is at 16 Diana spread a nasty rumor about me in school and I almost got expelled Diana got caught lying and got suspended of course dad and Tina blamed me for this that was the last straw for me I rang my cousin from my mama’s side and told her what had happened she came over to my house angry at Tina and Dad she gave them a piece of her mind dad said she was welcome to have me if it bothered her so much that was a blow to my heart to hear
my dad say that to me so Shila and I went to pack my stuff Diana’s room was open and she was sitting on her bed smirking at me we got my stuff and we left I haven’t looked back since over the years neither dad nor even Diana tried to contact me but I would block all attempts now a week ago Shila visited me she told me that she got a message from my dad for me I was surprised she even mentioned that since she knew how I felt about him she told me that Diana was in a fatal accident and didn’t make it she said he wanted to
talk to me Shila handed me his number and said it’s up to me I did ring them out of curiosity more than anything he didn’t even recognize my voice but when I told him it was me he broke down crying and most of the time I couldn’t understand what he was saying when he calmed down he said my sister died and it’s time to come back home and make things right with each other I asked what sister I have no sister he started crying and saying don’t do this she doesn’t deserve this this enraged me and I just let out all my anger hurt and
frust ation I had felt towards them and ends it with I don’t care if she died my girlfriend who was beside me took my phone off me and ented the call for me glad she did before I said anymore she told me later that I could have been more understanding I’ve had time to think it over and wonder if she’s right and if I am the idiot not the idiot your father enabled you to be abused in your own home and then tossed you out when he was called out now his Golden Child Is Dead and he suddenly remembered he is a consolation child hard no you more or
less have moved on from your dad’s rejection and you owe him nothing at this point could you have been more empathetic sure but he threw away your love and empathy when you were 16 he failed as a father he doesn’t get to waltz back in and pretend nothing happened just because he’s feeling sad it’s not even about op and their non-existent relationship his D literally said don’t do this to her it’s still about Diana I’m not saying her funeral shouldn’t be but if there was going to be any type of reconciliation
it needed to be dad taking accountability for his actions and not because Diana had passed his dad wants him to show up and play the part of the grieving son and brother for R there’s nothing to mourn or grieve and that’s because of the parents’ actions on a side note you must have a very serious conversation with your girlfriend about how you were treated growing up it can be hard for people who didn’t grow up with crappy parents and families to understand that just because their family was good it’s not the case for
you and there’s no hope for reconciliation I agree op you have a lot of hurt bottled up for over 21 years of putting up with golden child Diana and then being disregarded by your dad and stepmother only for him to throw you away like nothing nothing you deserved better and now he’s coming back to you because stepsis died please get some therapy and allow your girlfriend to attend if you’re comfortable doing so I 29 female have a twen daughter my ex AKA her father and I had her at a very young age we separated one year
later after we had her and have been co-parenting ever since my daughter’s father is more of a strict parent than me for example he doesn’t let my daughter wear certain types of clothes like crop tops tank tops bodysuits Etc he also doesn’t want her wearing makeup and yells at her a lot because she wears makeup all the time including these fake eyelashes now the thing is I let her use them because she’s a good kid she gets amazing grades is respectful and I believe she can expressed herself in that way he also has this rule with her
where she has to put her phone on DND d by 10 p.m. at night why so she doesn’t do anything bad which I don’t understand how that’s going to work but whatever my daughter’s also been telling me that his new wife her stepmom is sometimes rude and strict last week I got a call from my ex and his wife angry and telling me that I’m such a careless bad parent I asked them to explain and they said that they found out my daughter has a secret boyfriend she’s been hiding and said that it’s my fault since since I let her
go out wearing all this makeup and inappropriate stuff now remember this isn’t the first time they’ve blamed me for my daughter’s actions and stuff now since this wasn’t the first time and it’s honestly really annoying I tell them that my parenting shouldn’t concern them and probably isn’t even the reason she’s misbehaving and that their strictness is why she’s hiding stuff from them they hung up and from what I’ve heard from my daughter they’ve been talking crap about me and saying I’m an idiot also for the boyfriend thing I
talked with her and she said that he wasn’t even her boyfriend and just a guy friend but am I an idiot call me a dinosaur but I don’t think a tween needs to be wearing false eyelashes or bodysuits I also think that giving a kid that young unrestricted access to a phone past 10 p.m. is a bad move she should be asleep by then anyway so it might be an unpopular opinion but yes you are the idiot they have valid concerns fake eyelashes for a child sounds bat crap you realize they can hurt her natural lashes if she wears
them too often because the glue rips at them every time they come off face full of makeup is she a child or a 32 no tween needs a face full of makeup she already thinks she needs stuff like that I mean come on lady you’re obviously trying to be her buddy and not her parent I agree saying no to your kid sucks but it’s extremely necessary it’s not too late to change grow up and parent my gosh do better kids these days have two modes Coco melon and straight to Euphoria it seems like it would be in your daughter’s best interest to work
with a mediator to work out best parenting practices so she benefits from consistent parenting in both houses everyone’s the idiot here because neither of you seems interested in centering your kids experience and making it peaceful and predictable I a female teen live one week with my dad and another with my mom they divorced 3 years ago and my mom has been dating John for a Year John and I don’t hate each other but we’re not close we all live in the same town as most of my dad’s side of the family so besides my music lesson I also hang out
a lot with my cousins and didn’t spend much time around John a month ago John and his daughter Trisha tween moved into my house temporarily because of a fire at theirs my house has two bedrooms so Trisha has to stay in my room my bed is a bunk bed because I was getting a sister but my mom miscarried Trisha and I hung out only a few times before this but I can say the same about her and John I don’t hate her but she turns out to be hard to live with she she has long hair and it’s everywhere she talks in her sleep and I was woken up five or six
times since her stay she also sometimes tried to speak to me when I turned off my lamp a sign that I was going to sleep I talked to my mom and she said I needed to be nicer to her since she’s been through a lot that my issues were just minor inconveniences and that Trisha would be back at her own home soon late next month I talked to my dad who said I could move in with him until Trisha leaves I then packed my bags and told my mom that I’d be staying at my dad’s she blew up at me saying what a spoiled brat that I am and that I’m making John and
Trisha feel horrible for imposing I just left it’s been a week now and my mom never contacted me she dropped my Christmas presents at my grandma’s because my dad and I would celebrate Christmas there I don’t think my mom can get the law involved because I’m a teen and I just have to tell them the living situation and they should understand besides it’s only until I can have my room back again still am I the idiot not the idiot a house fire is pretty traumatic your mom’s boyfriend and his daughter probably lost everything they had
including sentimental things your mother’s kind to take in her boyfriend and his daughter but you’re stuck sharing a room with someone you don’t know well I think it’s perfectly reasonable to stay with your dad until they move back out your mother has no right to criticize you for not wanting to share a room you’re not wrong to spend some extra time with your dad just be aware that your mom and her boyfriend might decide to make this permanent so ensure you have everything you care about out of your room make another trip
if you need to Jesus what a leap a month and a half of a temporary living situation that was not precedented or planned whatsoever this is where parents teach their kids empathy and caring for others in bad situations op is lucky enough to have another option and I’m genuinely glad it worked out that way for them because their mom isn’t putting them through something terrible or unreasonable I wouldn’t be on op’s side on this op you are the idiot your mom is right that the mature kind thing would be to just deal with it
for a few weeks to help a kid who just dealt with such a horrible and terrifying experience you’re a teen and you’re allowed to be less than perfectly mature mature thing is just to suck it up what the heck I disagree with this point nothing’s immature about not wanting to share a room when she has another readily available option it’s not like she told her mom to kick them out she just left the situation I wonder if Mom intends to make this bedroom situation permanent and as fuming that her daughter hasn’t gone with the
plan I just landed at home from taking my family on vacation in Mexico my daughter was watching The Troll movie on the plane and minding her own business the woman in front of her decided to put her hair over the back seat this obscured the screen for my kid my daughter asked her to move her hair but she wouldn’t we pushed the button for the flight attendant and she got the woman to move her hair for about 15 minutes then she did it again I decided to do something when my daughter went to the bathroom I took her seat when she
came back I let her have my seat she asked why I moved and I said that I like the woman’s hair and wanted a better look at it the woman heard me and she immediately pulled her hair back tucked it in and pulled her hoodie up my daughter didn’t notice she was happy with her movie and I was glad to have a nap my wife says I should have just switched seats and not said anything to make that woman uncomfortable I think she needed to know that she was being rude not the idiot this was a genius solution that deserves no shame or
correction tell your wife to try to respect how quickly and smoothly you resolve the issue rather than try to critique it shaking my head some people can’t be made happy also screw that lady it’s absolutely trash Behavior how the tables turned you should have fake sniffed her hair too someone did this with my nephew a couple of months ago he’s not a good flyer slightly autistic and he’s 6’2 he apparently stood up gathered the hair and put it around the seat across her face she spluttered and carried on he loomed over the seat and
just said I paid for a hairless seat with a video screen keep it away luckily my sister-in-law was able to keep the piece and a flight attendant warned the hairy one to be honest I salute you you sir have handled this situation well and the best thing is this will hopefully last she’ll be wary of creepy men and not put her hair over the seat in the future I wonder why your wife thinks you have to take care of not making that woman uncomfortable after that woman deliberately and repeatedly has made your daughter
uncomfortable my sister has two now adult kids her son is 21 her daughter’s 18 and both of them told her in the last month or so that they plan to change their names legally my nephew was George and my niece is Catherine the kids always had nicknames as kids and asked people not to use their whole names but it was my niece who was the most vocal about the hatred she had for her name she said Catherine made her think of an old lady who lived down the street from her and she felt like it was a really old lady’s name or a name someone who
wanted to appear so mature would have she wanted a name that sounded younger and in middle school she started going by the name Ember after a character she adored in a book Ember is stuck and she plans to make that her legal name George was never as outspoken but in the last few years mostly since he moved out of his parents house he’s been writer to his friends now he’s decided that he wants to make writer his legal name my sister was upset with one wanting to change but with both she’s got a mix of sadness and anger about it she and my
niece have argued a lot my sister told her wanting to sound young is a dumb reason to change her name she told her that the name Catherine has a lot of history surrounding it and sounds far more adult than she is now she told her she just wanted a trendy modern name and couldn’t see the benefit of having a real name she hasn’t been as harsh with my nephew but she goes more for the guilt trips with him she has tried that with my niece too just more with my nephew it got to the point that I heard from both my niece and nephew that their
mom is driving them crazy and my nephew’s considering changing his middle name like his sister plans to change hers since their mom is being so extreme about this my niece said she doesn’t want either name her mom gave her and would rather just have a first name than carry around names she doesn’t like so I decided to talk to my sister and she told me she didn’t want to hear what I had to say she told me they are her kids and she has every right to try to convince them to do the right thing I told her she should still lay off the
guilt trips or she might find she hears way less from her kids than she does now and they might be less inclined to tell her stuff in the future which she also wouldn’t like she told me to leave after telling me that I crossed the line am I the idiot you are the idiot for not telling your niece and nephew that the names they chose are dumb your sister’s right that changing your name to sound younger is dumb I changed my name to something cool when I was 20 I got my bachelor’s and MERS in that name but I realized it was stupid trendy
and self-indulgent as I aged when I got married I used it as a chance to restore my birth name I feel like an idiot for what I did and I’m so embarrassed when I have to explain that decade of my life where I had a different name not the idiot names are personal and it matters more that your niblings are happy and validated than your sister’s ego and preferences she can change her name to Katherine George if she loves them so much I say this is someone who cannot get some people to stop using my legal name for the life of me I hate it so
much it’s like nails on a chalkboard being referred to that way but repeat after me mind your own business this is literally not your business her relationship with her kids is hers to manage not yours the more you interfere the more likely you’ll be asked to take sides you’ve done enough they’re all adults and they need to sort this out themselves just be the supportive aunt and Don’t Preach at sister [Music]
