my dad passed away when I a female teen was three we lived in a house my grandparents owned and they agreed to let my mom and I live there rentree over the years whenever my mom dated I tried to spend the nights she had guessed over at my grandparents house when I was 10 my grandfather renovated the basement to make me my own kind of apartment I have my own bathroom kitchen and living room to go with my bedroom my mom met a guy last year and it got serious he moved in with his two kids which is fine by me my mom deserves
to be happy and have someone in her life there are three bedrooms upstairs so it’s perfect one for them and one for each of his kids everything was going according to plan until the kids asked where I was staying I said I lived in the basement they made a joke about me living in my mom’s basement I invited them down to play Mario Kart to be sociable and show up off if I’m completely honest my uncle gave me a couch and my dad’s old lazy boy was in the living room the recliner is only for me and all my friends know that the kids
started complaining that it wasn’t fair that I got all this room to myself one tried sitting in my chair even after telling her that it was only for me I settled that immediately it’s mine after a few races where I demolished them I said it was time for them to return up stairs they said no I called my mom to come get them over the next week my mom started hinting that maybe my living room should be a common area I said no she started insisting I said no she has a key to my door I never locked my door unless she had guest I did start locking
it when Dan and his kids moved in I came home from school and found the kids in my living room they also had gone into my room and they were eating the snacks that I paid for myself I yelled and told them to get the heck out I called for my mom to explain why they were there she said she had decided it wasn’t fair that I got almost a third of the house to myself and that my TV and my gaming systems should be shared I said screw that she got really upset with me and said it was a done deal so deal with it my grandfather and my uncles came and
got me and all the things that matter to me me including my recliner he told my mom that she needed to start paying rent if I wasn’t going to be living there I have a bedroom at my grandparents house but miss my area my mom’s trying to get me to go back so they can save money to get their own place yeah right I’m not that dumb she said that I needed to stop being a brat and behave like an adult I said I liveed like an adult until you let those kids into my area without permission she tried to say she could do
whatever she wanted in her house sometimes I think she forgets it wasn’t my dad’s house and she didn’t inherit it I feel a little guilty because my mom is pretty cool and I hate that this is straining her relationship am I the idiot not the idiot she forgot that it wasn’t her house I’m glad you’re standing firm because your mother has no right to your living area things snacks Etc they were provided to you by your grandparents not her unfortunately as you found out some people can’t be reasoned with you’ll probably find
yourself going low contact when you’re an adult that’s okay you can love her from a distance and not become the person who supplies the deficits in her life she’s an adult she should pay her own way not steal from her daughter your mom is entitled she messed around and found out your mom wanted you to share now it’s a shared space she got what she wanted unfortunately it wasn’t the way she wanted she decided these people who moved in were more important than your long-term living situation she could have shut it down but chose not to the
question is is she more unhappy you’re not living there or more unhappy that she must pay rent I have to wonder if Mom has told her boyfriend that the house is hers and he thinks she owns it and then she acts like she owns it to save face so that he doesn’t know that she’s lying and then the grandparents help her daughter escape and Mom and boyfriend are suddenly stuck paying rent two working adults should be able to afford rent I wonder if mom’s boyfriend isn’t with her just for a free place to live mini update I have something to add
after talking to my grandparents they were not happy about her moving her boyfriend and his kids in they were going to allow it since I still lived there but coming into my space and my mom saying that I had to share it did not go over well with them that’s why they want to start charging her rent especially after I moved out I 24 female named my toddler daughter Indie my sister 35 gave birth to her first child recently my niece and also called her Indie the name Indie was not one my sister had mentioned to me
before I had my child my boyfriend and I just really like the name for our daughter the name’s not a family name either I say all this because my sister’s now unhappy and confusions already started with my daughter and hers sharing the same first name she got into a fight with our dad because he called them big Indie and Little Indie and he snapped back that he needed something to help him make it clear which Indie he was talking about he also said it would only get worse as they grew up my sister went on a rant about
it she told me everyone acts like she did something wrong and that calling her daughter Indie should not be such a big crap show but it is she then told me I should start calling my daughter by her middle name instead of by her first that way everyone would be happy I told her that if she didn’t like the fact that both girls shared the same name people would come up with ways to differentiate between them she could use her daughter’s middle name or create a nickname if that would be better but I told her I would not change what I call
my daughter after 2 years because she decided to use the same name for her cousin my sister called me selfish she told me that she had every right to name her child whatever she wanted and I cut her off and said yes but that it didn’t give her the right to insist that I call my daughter something else she tried to get our mom to intervene with me and my dad mom told my sister that she should have seen this coming since Dad is all to experienc with the confusion of multiple family members with the same name because his family liked reusing the
same few names throughout and that he had to do the same with his family members his whole life because of it she also told her that I use the name first therefore if she was unhappy with the name being used twice it was up to her to change it my sister claimed that I should have been able to sit down and discuss a compromise instead of refusing outright and not engaging more so am I the idiot my sister called me selfish LOL the hypocritical sentence of the week and there is no compromise to be had here everyone acts like she did
something wrong because she did she used the same name that you did and expected you to change to suit her your family spends a lot of time with each other so there will always be confusion and she did this knowing the situation on your dad’s side of the family with multiple uses of a name not the idiot at all op I think it’s hysterical she’s calling you selfish when she’s the one who’s causing all the problems and being demanding your comebacks to her were perfect your mom’s right your sister should have seen this coming it’s not
your responsibility to clean up her mess by changing your daughter’s name she’s the one who needs to come up with a solution if she’s so bothered by the confusion you’ve done nothing wrong and it’s unfair of your sister to pressure you your sister needs to grow up and accept the consequences of her own actions my female teen whole family grandparents parents Aunts Uncles and cousins is attending a formal event in 2 weeks my step cousin Jen and I are the same age and her dad married my aunt when she was six Jen’s dad doesn’t make
a lot of money so Jen didn’t have many things growing up and my mother would always give my old stuff to Jen rather than throw them away especially for formal events which we all attend pretty often because of my grandparents my mother would always take the dress I’d worn to the last function and give it to Jen so that her dad didn’t have to buy one as we’re older and not growing I only loan addresses to Jen I assumed it would be the same this time so a few days ago when Jen and her family came over for dinner I took Jen upstairs to
give her the dress Jen saw my new dress for the event and asked if I would loan her that one instead she said she’d never gotten to wear a dress everyone hadn’t already seen me in and it wasn’t fair she always had hand me- Downs I said no because I’d bought the dress to wear to this event I was being nice to lend her a dress she doesn’t get to demand to be the new one Jen and I were arguing and eventually the adults got involved my parents stuck up for me and said I don’t have to share the dress but Jen was very upset and her dad took her
side saying it wouldn’t kill me to wear one of the many other dresses I have and just let Jen have the special one for once I then said if she wanted a specific dress he should buy it not try and take it from kids which set them off the parents are now fighting over this dress drama and part of me thinks that maybe I should have just Lan Jen the dress I loved that dress and I was excited to wear it which is why I didn’t and my parents say I absolutely shouldn’t but I don’t want everyone to fall out over it am I the idiot for not giving her the
dress not the idiot the real idiot here is Jen’s dad I can understand Jen wanting the dress it must be difficult for her to never get a new dress you’re totally right to want to keep your dress but Jen’s dad should make an effort take another job work overtime or even borrow money for once to offer this to his daughter it’s good that your parents were on your side I feel for Jen but you aren’t the reason she’s never had a new dress her parents are of course her dad was immediately on her side it’s making him look terrible not you and Jen please
try not to be too hard on her she’s wrong to want to wear your stuff before you do but she’s also hurting she’s had nothing but hand me- Downs her whole life true I was in Jen’s boat mostly having hand me- downs but I got a job at 15 so I could buy my own clothes as a mid teen she can very easily get a part-time job I wouldn’t let her borrow anything else op stopped loaning Jen any dresses since Jen picked a fight and tried to take your brand new dress she lost her borrowing privileges my husband 42 and I 41 female tried to
have children for 13 years before we accepted that we would never have it happen for us we spent much time hoping and trying different things and nothing worked I was 35 when we decided to come to terms with our life as a child-free couple we sold our house downsizing considerably and we started changing how we lived Our Lives we had devoted so much time to preparing to be a family with children that we didn’t really know what we wanted now that it was no longer in the cards then just after my 40th birthday I
discovered I was pregnant it was a huge shock and even more surprising was that the baby was healthy when I went for my first scan but I was afraid and we both were so we waited until I was 18 weeks along to tell people I didn’t show until about 21 weeks so that made it easy to hide we announced and people were through for us all our siblings already had children who were nine and older so this was the first baby born into the family in a while we were asked whether we would have a name reveal or a baby shower with a name reveal we decided to
keep the name to ourselves until he was born something special and a surprise for people most people understood it but it came to our attention recently that one of my husband’s sisters sister-in-law was not happy about any of this she didn’t like that we kept the pregnancy to ourselves for a while and disliked it even more that we didn’t share the name she brought this up at Christmas for the first time and surprised the whole family she brought it up to my husband three separate occasions after that and then she
brought it up to me 4 days ago she told me we left our families out when this was just as big of a deal for them as it was for us she said everyone had wanted us to have a baby too and how could we cut them out like that she also claimed we could have gotten feedback and blessings from family members on his name which is Hawthorne for people who will ask I told her that the news came as a surprise and we worried and wanted to come to terms and get to what we felt was safe before telling people she argued we needed our family if something
went wrong then she said there was still no excuse for the name the name was kind of odd and she would have liked us to pick a more classic name like James or George I told her I understood that everyone had their own taste but we were getting one chance to name a child and one opportunity to experience Parenthood and we wanted to make the most of it I said we never did it to hurt anyone but we wanted to do what felt right to us she told me that was what my husband said and it was lame especially to defend myself that way when it was
something that the whole family was experiencing she told me we just wanted to leave everyone out and that we should have known better am I the idiot not the idiot your sister-in-law is a giant idiot while it’s great for your family that you got pregnant it isn’t no way happening to them this is your experience and after years of trying everything you did was completely understandable your sister-in-law is a control freak who seems to think her opinion is the only right one no decent person would ever comment negatively on
someone’s child’s name I love the name by the way congratulations on your son honestly it seems like your sister-in-law is annoyed she couldn’t insert herself into your pregnancy and make it about her your reasons are understandable honestly it’s your child not hers she’s making your pregnancy and your child about her and how hurt she is I’d bet good money if you looked this wouldn’t be the only occasion she’s been like this sister-in-law has main character syndrome and it is not your problem nor are you obligated to indulge
her just enjoy being a mom my sister 29 and I 23 female are both pregnant she’s nearing her 7eventh month she had an accidental pregnancy with someone who she was having an affair with so she’s not getting his support my sister moved back in with our parents and she’s at risk of losing her job she has hyperemesis gravidarum so she’s not having a good time and she’s had to skip work often she was also recently diagnosed with gestational diabetes I also got pregnant accidentally but with my boyfriend 25 whom I’ve been dating for 2 years I’m in
my 14th week it was a big surprise to us because I was on birth control but we were already living together and we were planning on getting married so we were able to accept this a lot better besides that I’ve had normal pregnancy symptoms which kind of sucked more than I expected them but my nausea is almost non-existent by now so I’m doing a lot better now my parents and I live close by so we visit often also when I got pregnant I asked her for contact with her doctor so ever since we’ve been going together to our checkups because I
thought that she like it and it was also helpful for her the thing is that my sister and I are spending more time together and often talking about our pregnancies as well so my sister had her baby shower last week the party was nice and we got to see some of our extended family who live away since they’re also my family they asked me about my pregnancy and we chatted about that as well my boyfriend was also invited so because I’m the closest person to him he was with me almost all the time but then my sister got upset she wasn’t feeling
well and I don’t know exactly what triggered her but she got angry at me because I was stealing her attention she told me I always want to be the focus of attention and I can’t even let her have one day she said that I’m always bragging about how good and supportive my boyfriend is and how easy my pregnancy is and I don’t know when to shut up because I don’t have empathy for others that are going through a more alling time I started crying this was so unexpected to me because she had never implied or said anything about this
before our parents and my boyfriend rushed to comfort me and they got angry at her they had an argument and my boyfriend and I left almost everyone sided with me at this and yesterday my sister sent me this long message about how I was an entitled and spoiled Golden Child literally like that and how much she always always feels like she’s in the shadows because of me she accused me of getting pregnant on purpose because I couldn’t tolerate not having everyone’s attention that I complain about small things when I have it easy all of that
she blocked me so I couldn’t reply to anything I only spoke about this with my boyfriend and he told me not to listen to her he also told me that I should tell my parents about this because how my sister treats me is unfair but what if she’s actually right right everyone’s the idiot here you’re 23 and 29 years old you’re too old to have your parents mediate your disputes your sister may not be getting support from the affair partner but she should be getting financial support she should consult an attorney for her options for
child support unless you are The Golden Child whereby you always attempt to bring in a battalion knowing no matter what you do parents will always cheer you on I’m not convince the sister’s the bad one here I’m getting a goody two shoes Vibe and a suck up boyfriend exactly I’m getting go is majorly downplaying what they’re saying and acting either deliberately for sympathy here or unintentionally cannot read the room at the baby shower if someone asks how your pregnancy is it’s going well and move on don’t go on
sharing details about your boyfriends or anything it’s not your day I also feel op thinks she’s better than her older sister this caught my eye too it sounds like op is The Golden Child who can do no wrong when reading the story I felt she did get pregnant on purpose because her sister was now living with her parents getting extra attention she had to do something to take the light off of sis and back on her jealousy all the way into adulthood her sister’s childhood was probably a nightmare compared to op’s yeah you are the idiot op
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