i 27 male made some accidental good financial decisions years ago that put me in a position where I can do mostly what I love mess with all kinds of electronics play video games a lot Etc I’m a huge nerd I own a small electronic SL Compu shop where I fix customers devices Etc I also sell General computer stuff and other small electronics I live in the same building I don’t spend all my time in the shop I have two workers who work in ships and I work when I feel like it or when they ask for help I also replace them when
they need a vacation or sick days I have a sister Jane 34 and she has three kids Mary a young female teen Julia a young female grammar Schooler and Jack a male preschooler and as I’m the only one with basically unlimited free time to watch the younger kids Mary doesn’t need to be watched anymore but but she often hangs out in my shop either way I do it every time the kids are sick or my sister’s on a business trip for her work and after the global issue kids are sent home for every tiny cough and sneeze what
happened my grandmother had her 80th birthday and everyone was invited even relatives I don’t remember ever seeing before my sister and I were sitting close to each other and suddenly one older lady who was maybe my grandmother’s cousin or something started to ask everyone what they do I told her that I run a small business and my sister out of nowhere Yeah by running a business he means being very lazy and sleeping until noon sometimes chilling out in the store and playing video games or watching movies all day while some of
us had to work hard for their success this is all technically true at the same time she studied her whole life I went to trade school and got lucky with the few business decisions still I felt kind of hurt that she forgot that for her to get all that education others had to watch her kids so I said oh don’t forget that I’m also a full-time free babysitter but I decided to quit and focus on being lazy she didn’t say anything more and didn’t take me seriously either as a week later I got a phone call in the morning that Jack
threw up at night a few times she would bring him to my place and I said don’t you remember that I quit as I’m way too lazy to watch the kids and ended the call and went back to bed when I woke up later there were multiple messages from my sister telling me that I’m a selfish idiot and I act like I’m the center of the world I replied politely sorry you feel that way later my mother called and told me that I put my sister in a really tough position as she mom can’t take days off from the hospital on such short
notice either and Jane has nobody to watch the kids am I the idiot for not watching them I’m not hurt because of the truth I know I’m lazy but it hurts that she acts like watching her kids has been nothing edit where’s the father of the children the father of the oldest is nowhere to be found and the father of number two and three is a truck driver so he’s only home on weekends and sometimes even every other weekend not the idiot your sister ruins a very good situ situation she had by crapping all over you in front of everyone for no
good reason now she has to deal with the consequences of her own actions the core issue here is the utter lack of respect don’t back down or she’ll see that she can get away with anything she’ll lose all respect for you and be more contemptuous of you than ever giving in would not result in you being more appreciated it’s sad but that’s the way it is your sister bit the hand that was helping her welcome to the consequences she should have thought about that before deciding to unleash what she thinks of you it’s not your problem like
the vast majority of other parents she can hire a sitter too bad all her education and hard work didn’t teach her not to look a gift horse in the mouth I bet your sister never left money for their food either yep your sister’s jealous working in what I bet is a demanding position in a demanding field while while op has set himself up with a successful business that allows him to operate autonomously and with flexibility that allows him to take care of her kids on last minute notice op is not lazy CIS is just jealous and
Compares their situations and then wants to blame him so now she loses out I have a different take op you are the idiot I get why you’re upset but permanently destroying the relationship ship over a few comments seems extreme your sister resents that she has to work hard and manage kids while you got lucky and don’t should she have sniped at you in front of others no the result is that nephews and nieces will now be the kidss dose with ibuprofen and sent to school sick because the parents simply cannot take off the kind of work that having
multiple kids who may get sick requires if they aren’t actively puking they’ll have to go too if your sister resented you before this will be a whole new level can you do this yep nothing’s stopping you everyone will tell you you owe them nothing enjoy your extra free time and feeling of Happiness over screwing someone over about 3 years ago my sister dapan got pregnant she and her husband Jim were thrilled but found out at the 20we scan that the baby had a congenital condition and would be born severely disabled Daphne decided to keep going
with the pregnancy despite Jim’s protest and they split up but they got back together by the time their son Liam was born he’s now a toddler over the last two years daan’s and Jim’s mental health has declined significantly Daphne used to be a positive and pleasant person but now it’s impossible to converse with her she’s malicious and envious and flies off the handle let any perceived slight when I was having my child I didn’t speak to her for most of the pregnancy because of how bitter and selfish she was we don’t live close to Daphne so we
rarely see her in person but I heard she was getting worse from our parents in early November Daphne had a mental breakdown she trashed Liam’s room completely and vandalized Jim’s Car in a fit of rage this was enough to finally get her moved up the waiting list for mental health services and she started th y she reached out to me during this time and we had a few conversations I invited her in Jim to visit my husband and me for a March vacation at our beach house then we saw daffany and Jim over Christmas and it
was awful daffany could keep herself in check for a couple of hours but then she would revert to her old self she would swear constantly and while I know Liam can’t understand her I think swearing at kids isn’t okay whenever I expressed concern for her she just snapped that I needed to get off my high horse about having a perfect child Jim was snapping at her constantly he also constantly asked to hold or play with my child which got annoying overall the whole Christmas break was just the whole family being anxious over the
situation my husband finally said A week ago that he didn’t want dafy and Jim visiting and I agreed I caught daany and said something had come up with my husband work and we needed to cancel the trip dapan was Furious apparently her therapist had been saying how good this break would be for her they haven’t been on vacation since having Liam and I owed her this one thing to help her eventually she gave up and said I was horrible for pulling the rug out from under her and hung up I feel bad if I’m derailing her recovery and even my
parents think I shouldn’t have cancelled which is making me rethink things they saw how horrible she was to me over Christmas they saw how obsessed Jim became with my child and they still think I should have put that aside they’re generally not the keep the peace people so maybe I’m in the wrong am I the idiot here edit another thing that gets thrown in my face a lot is that I won’t lend gift Daphne money to hire Specialized Care not the idiot while your sister’s mental health issues are tragic her behavior during Christmas
pretty much told you what you and your family can expect during another visit you most certainly did not derail her recovery part of therapy is learning to deal with setbacks she needs much more help than you can provide including finding specialized babysitting for her son you don’t owe her or your parents the stress that she’ll put you and your family under canceling the trip was the right call you won’t be able to predict what she’ll do your steps sister has a history of destructive Behavior trashes rooms
vandalizes cars and you’re supposed to play nice during a vacation your own mental health and your family’s well-being matter too it looks like she’s getting too attached to your child I know this comment isn’t helpful to op but when professionals advise you to terminate one’s pregnancy one should heat that advice they have real life ongoing consequences for the child child parents and extended family davany made a very selfish decision and is now expecting everyone to help I’m the dad of two teen boys they’re pretty lucky that our finished
basement is their junior man cave it’s not my doing the previous owner was a gym rat and really fixed it up besides their bedrooms there’s a little gym area with a couple of machines free weights and even the world’s tiniest locker room with three lockers on a bench Etc it opens into a large walk-in shower a mini version of an actual locker room gang shower about 5 to 7 ft the boys think this basement is their Kingdom and they love it so do their friends when it comes to showering it’s not unusual for them to just leave the water running and
Jump Right In after the other finishes it’s not unusual for them to overlap in fact it’s common if they’re in a hurry to jump in simultaneously after workout it’s a pretty normal gym atmosphere and a decent sized shower with a couple of heads not like a cozy bathtub shower or anything somehow this setup was mentioned in front of my sister taking a house tour for the first time recently and she was appalled appalled taking a shower at the same time together she was positively incredulous I told her it was no different than the boys showering at
the gym or their Sports locker rooms at school guys especially athletes take showers yes together happens a million times a day she said that that was very very inappropriate I called her a wacko idiot and now she’s not speaking to me or my wife not the idiot if anything is inappropriate here it’s her for making a mundane non-issue into some creepy concern that is indeed wacko Behavior I wonder if she’s Uber religious good on youu op what could she think is so wrong I mean getting two teenage boys to take a shower in and of itself can be
challenging so I would be happy if they were taking them as it is whether separate or not as far as sharing a shower together they’re close to the same age as brothers does she get all reared out of two toddlers take a bath together no but your sister’s the weird one here for being appalled does she also think gets weird at the gym or in a school locker room if not what’s the difference God forbid she hears about the showers in the military women’s locker rooms are not set up like men’s locker rooms and there’s a good chance
she has no idea that men’s locker rooms are much more communal than women’s when I was in high school the GU locker room was gang showers and had no doors on the toilet stalls but the girls locker had dozens of individual private shower stalls so it’s possible she just didn’t realize what lockers are like for dudes I say everyone’s the idiot here the fact she sees everything wrong with that and you calling her names is gross to me my family’s lives got thrown into chaos 3 months ago when my mom got arrested for some Financial related
crimes she’s probably going away for the next 3 to 8 years we’re losing our house and she and my stepfather are getting divorced there’s no good good timing for any of this but it’s especially bad now because I’m in college on the other side of the country my stepfather isn’t even in the country right now deployed and my only sibling my steps sister Stacy is an older teen by the time my mom realized she couldn’t even make bond I had only 3 weeks until winter break so we agreed that it would be okay for me to keep my
original flat back while things were still being sorted out we decided that I would take a semester off school to help out until everything was settled having Stacy hold down the fort for that long wasn’t ideal but it’s not illegal the bills rep paid and everything so all she had to do was breathe and not burn the house down she did not do that she decided that all this meant she could do whatever she wanted and moved in with her boyfriend without telling anyone the house went unattended and of course we got robbed dling the place out anything
of value that was left after the raid is now gone including basically all of my stuff that’s what I came home to I immediately called Stacy but she blocked my number I only know where she went through social media and she wouldn’t respond to messages there so I had to start posting about all of this on Facebook to get her to respond and now I’m getting crap for blaming her and putting too much on a child I’m expecting too much on top of having to drop out of school temporarily and everything else I’m responsible for
including probably ending up as her guardian I now have to replace anything I didn’t take to college with me and immediately Scramble for housing my only expectation of her was that she wouldn’t just vanish for 3 weeks that was her only responsibility and she just bailed her being a minor makes her actions worse in my opinion because it’s not even legal for her to decide that she just want wants to go live on her own now she was legally required to stay there because our parents told her to I don’t think I’m required to pretend she
was just an angel to talk about it edit we have footage from a nearby security camera that proved she wasn’t involved in the robbery not the idiot whatsoever Stacy is an older teen she’s almost an adult you put your trust in her and she betrayed it she’s the one to blame it is the highest degre of irresponsibility to be effectively housesitting for someone and then abandoning the house and then on top of all that she blocks your number because she knows she did the wrong thing the camera only proves that she wasn’t there when it happened it
doesn’t prove she wasn’t involved or the sister told people what was happening and that the house was empty op are you sure she didn’t have friends or Associates break in Andor her boyfriend didn’t do the same it’s not unheard of and and it would make a lot of sense considering her life is also in turmoil at the moment she knew the house would be unattended and she’d have an alibi yep it’s too convenient that steps sister just up and left to her boyfriend’s place right in on time if she had the house to herself why didn’t
he go stay with her I think mommy plans it in Step new as she was told to clear out and stay out of the way the Smoking Gun will be that none of Step stuff went Miss in because she’ conveniently taken it to the boyfriend’s place it’s shady as heck honey if you can afford it fly back where you go to school and get a place in a job do not take a semester off or put your life on hold for idiots your mom messed up your stepdad has a family emergency and chose to stay away because I’m sure the military would Grant him emergency leave to get things
settled with his daughter your steps sister is not your responsibility you are not the idiot but the rest of your family is I post my food piics from when I eat on Instagram it’s just for fun I spend 30 minutes a week on it tops my boyfriend is a very sweet guy in many ways but one thing that I’m not so much a fan of is that he often hops on the bandwagon of hating innocent things not just not liking something but making sure everyone knows he doesn’t like it even if nobody asked I can’t help but notice a theme pumpkin spice lattes
pouty selfies Taylor Swift Etc as you can guess he dislikes the food pictures and thinks it’s annoying and cringeworthy he doesn’t even follow my Instagram even though he has an account even though I don’t have many followers I have started getting occasional offers and invitations from restaurants in my city to try their food for free in exchange for review nothing crazy no steak dinner so far but I’ve gotten a few sandwiches and several baked goods well I just hit the big leagues and got invited to a new restaurant opening with
the free appetizer and entree for me and one guest I immediately invited one of my Instagram friends with whom I’ve gone out to eat on several occasions and who also enjoys taking food photos I told my boyfriend and he’s angry that I’m not taking him and says that I’m doing it out of spite I think I’m not if the restaurant gives me free food in exchange for a post I’ll put more effort into the post and spend a few extra minutes ensuring I get very good shots I’d rather do it with someone who isn’t going to sigh and roll their eyes
through the whole thing also I think it’s pretty audacious of him to be actively unsupportive of an activity that hurts no one but then also expects to benefit when it’s successful your gut feeling about this is absolutely correct you’re there to do a job essentially and his bad attitude would hinder you from getting it done right not the idiot I want to also gently point out as a married woman of 21 years that for a relationship to work and be healthy and happy your partner needs to be supportive of the things
you’re excited about they don’t have to be interested themselves but they do need to encourage and lift you up your boyfriend is disdainful of your passion did you know disdain has been scientifically proven to be one of four predictors of future divorce true story to gently point out the things he actively hates are all associated with women no he doesn’t have to like it at all but actively hating is a part of misogyny I don’t think this is a good guy he sounds exhausting with his I’m cooler than everyone else because I hate
popular things attitude go and have some fun with someone who isn’t a sarus enjoy your dinner [Music] [Music]
